TEAZ
12-19-2007, 05:31 PM
Okay so I will try to give some background information as I go on this as I have not really posted a lot about the situation with my brother.
My brother and I have always been super close. He has always been my best friend, I love him more then life itself as do my children. However he and I Have had a very tough year this year in terms of our "relationship".
Back this time last year he started to date a girl who is from the same city that I live in (my brother lives 45 minutes away). When he started to date her obviously I did not see him nor talk to him as much. I understood and was okay with that, but what hurt me was that he would drive in to see her four times a week, drive RIGHT BY my house and not even stop to say hello or come and see us..:(. This hurt and stung considering I have always done so much for my brother. I always send him left overs home, I always bake for him, in essence I have treated him like my mother treated him and you know how Italian Momma's and their sons are..:groan...
Anyhow He and this girls relationship ended in May due to some really stupid shit that was pulled on HIS part. I supported him and in my eyes let him off pretty easy considering I was the one that got the hate calls and such from the girlfriend. In that time I just have had a really hard time with my brother. Talking to him has been like talking to a stranger, I just had no desire to talk with him or have him come over. The one time he did come to the house he was so out of line with Zachary that I almost told him to leave. Instead I informed him that in no uncertain terms would he ever speak to my kids like that again or he would never be allowed back. He appologized and I know he felt bad...for a minute I got a small glimpse of my "old brother". I know he cares so much for these kids that he would never harm or hurt them in any way but still I could not deal with what he did.
This then put a bigger barrier between us and I just was having a hard time with it in general. I decided that it was time I treat my brother the way he treated us and to let it go. I told my sister up front that I was NOT going to be going out of my way for my brother this year at Christmas. If he wanted to come and have Christmas with Jeff, myself and the kids he was welcome but I was not going to beg him to do so (I have had to do this in the past because I did not want him spending Christmas alone). This hurt and the thought of him not being here was hard.
I have in the past done his Christmas Shopping for him, this year I did not. I have enough to do on my own. I have in the past made him all his favorite things that my mom would have made, this year I have not done that. I just am practicing some tough love I guess.
Anyhow. I have noticed in the last little while a shadow of the 'old brother" coming out. He has called a bit more, needing help with Christmas presents for the kids and such. The other night he called and it was SOOOOOOOO cute. He said to me "Schnell(my nickname for him and Jeff) I got the girls Christmas Present but please don't be mad at me"... I responded with "what did you get that I would be mad about :suspect"... and he said....
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.DIAMOND EARRINGS:thud :thud :thud
He then told me that they are his only girls in his life and he wanted them to have something very special from Uncle because he loves them like his own and they deserve only the best..:cry1. He also asked informed me on that phone call that he was going to come on Christmas Eve and spend the night at the house so he could be here in the morning to watch the kids and help Jeff and I..:awe :heart :love....
I LOVE LOVE LOVE this kid. I LOVE my brother like no tomorrow... and to have this time with him and have the "old Scott" just is like no present under the tree.... My Christmas will be merrier this year.... I will have my brother as well as my Husband and Children.... God is Good.... He has answered my prayers..;) :heart
My brother and I have always been super close. He has always been my best friend, I love him more then life itself as do my children. However he and I Have had a very tough year this year in terms of our "relationship".
Back this time last year he started to date a girl who is from the same city that I live in (my brother lives 45 minutes away). When he started to date her obviously I did not see him nor talk to him as much. I understood and was okay with that, but what hurt me was that he would drive in to see her four times a week, drive RIGHT BY my house and not even stop to say hello or come and see us..:(. This hurt and stung considering I have always done so much for my brother. I always send him left overs home, I always bake for him, in essence I have treated him like my mother treated him and you know how Italian Momma's and their sons are..:groan...
Anyhow He and this girls relationship ended in May due to some really stupid shit that was pulled on HIS part. I supported him and in my eyes let him off pretty easy considering I was the one that got the hate calls and such from the girlfriend. In that time I just have had a really hard time with my brother. Talking to him has been like talking to a stranger, I just had no desire to talk with him or have him come over. The one time he did come to the house he was so out of line with Zachary that I almost told him to leave. Instead I informed him that in no uncertain terms would he ever speak to my kids like that again or he would never be allowed back. He appologized and I know he felt bad...for a minute I got a small glimpse of my "old brother". I know he cares so much for these kids that he would never harm or hurt them in any way but still I could not deal with what he did.
This then put a bigger barrier between us and I just was having a hard time with it in general. I decided that it was time I treat my brother the way he treated us and to let it go. I told my sister up front that I was NOT going to be going out of my way for my brother this year at Christmas. If he wanted to come and have Christmas with Jeff, myself and the kids he was welcome but I was not going to beg him to do so (I have had to do this in the past because I did not want him spending Christmas alone). This hurt and the thought of him not being here was hard.
I have in the past done his Christmas Shopping for him, this year I did not. I have enough to do on my own. I have in the past made him all his favorite things that my mom would have made, this year I have not done that. I just am practicing some tough love I guess.
Anyhow. I have noticed in the last little while a shadow of the 'old brother" coming out. He has called a bit more, needing help with Christmas presents for the kids and such. The other night he called and it was SOOOOOOOO cute. He said to me "Schnell(my nickname for him and Jeff) I got the girls Christmas Present but please don't be mad at me"... I responded with "what did you get that I would be mad about :suspect"... and he said....
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.DIAMOND EARRINGS:thud :thud :thud
He then told me that they are his only girls in his life and he wanted them to have something very special from Uncle because he loves them like his own and they deserve only the best..:cry1. He also asked informed me on that phone call that he was going to come on Christmas Eve and spend the night at the house so he could be here in the morning to watch the kids and help Jeff and I..:awe :heart :love....
I LOVE LOVE LOVE this kid. I LOVE my brother like no tomorrow... and to have this time with him and have the "old Scott" just is like no present under the tree.... My Christmas will be merrier this year.... I will have my brother as well as my Husband and Children.... God is Good.... He has answered my prayers..;) :heart