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Brontegirl
12-06-2007, 07:46 AM
When my mom cleaned out her garage, she discovered that she had 3 nativity sets and I ended up getting the one my grandmother made. I love it and the sentimental value is everything to me. This is the grandmother I named Vi after (her violets.)

My aunt called my mom the other day and asked her if she could have the nativity set that my grandmother made. My grandmother is deceased. When my mom, aunt and her brother split up the estate, my aunt chose to have lots of very big expensive pieces of jewelry and claimed she did not want the nativity set. So my mom took it. My aunt didn't offer my mother any money for the set but told my mother that she had more room for it anyway so she should get it. This is the same aunt who moved to AZ with her dh and they lived on all the equity in their home, had no jobs and no place to go. My mother took them in. When they got on their feet, they never offered her anything in terms of rent and balked at paying their half of the groceries and utilities. This is the Aunt who has her sons in their 30's living with her.

I have the nativity set above the entertainment center that my dh built and it makes the room. It is absolutely gorgeous and perfect for Christmas. So guess what I told my mother when she told me that Auntie wanted the nativity set. No frickin way. It's mine and I love it. I'm also hosting Christmas Eve at my house and my aunt is one of the guests. I put a rope light up there and it really shows the set off nicely. I do feel a twinge that perhaps I am a jerk. But I love the set even more and the memories of my grandmother when I look at it. :love:love

What the hell do I say if auntie asks me if she can have the set? That I really like it and it holds sentimental value for me toward my grandmother. (also auntie's mother.) Um, and that it is beautiful in my home? :o

CraftyFreak
12-06-2007, 08:10 AM
Just say no, that you love it too much and it holds far too many memories for you to just give it away.

Your aunt sounds like a bitch anyway. I would be royally pissed if she had the gall to ask for it in your home anyway!

~AMY~
12-06-2007, 12:52 PM
Yeah, I would tell her no.

Robyn
12-06-2007, 03:39 PM
I think I would say something along the lines of that it is a nice memory that I have of my grandmother and glad that she understands the sentimental value of it. And she is welcome to enjoy the memory with her whenever you host the holiday seasons but you were under the impression that she already had taken the sentimental value stuff when they first divided the estate in the form of jewelry and that you like to hold on to your piece of memory.

TEAZ
12-06-2007, 03:43 PM
Robyn is wise...:) :hugs.. Enjoy it Brontegirl

Brontegirl
12-06-2007, 04:24 PM
Robyn, that is so much better than "fuck no!" That was my first reaction. :couch


:snicker

Robyn
12-06-2007, 06:28 PM
Robyn, that is so much better than "fuck no!" That was my first reaction. :couch


:snicker

Ya, if I had been in the same situation I would have thought that too.

Stacey
12-06-2007, 06:52 PM
I think Robyn put it GREAT! It is how I kind of feel about one of my aunts who took all my grandmom's jewelry and furs and stuff. One of the fur collars even had Maggie's name on it, but now that she isn't in my family anymore (wtf) they took her name off of it. I thought that was such shit. But I wasn't at the house when they were going through everything, I just heard about it afterward. I hope Maggie doesn't remember, because she had picked it out and put her name on it one Christmas a few years ago.

I do have a pair of pink diamond earrings of my grandmothers that I was saving for Maggie when she is much older. Maybe when she graduates from college or something. They are about 3/4 carat each, so they aren't cheap. My mom said I need to get them appraised, but I haven't yet.

I won't ever wear them and I doubt the boys will ;)

Bronte! Keep hold of that. If she gets shitty about it, just get shitty back. I wish I had the balls to get shitty with my family about some things that I would like to have, but I don't want to seem greedy (even though there is one who is totally greedy).

This is what I want of my grandmothers:
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She loved it so much. I think we were the only two in the family who loved to play it and listen to it (it is a digital player piano). It would take up my entire den and I don't know how we could even fit it into the house, but I want it! ;)

Keep your nativity! It is YOURS!

Brontegirl
12-06-2007, 10:29 PM
Stacey - Thanks for the "balls" Ma'am! :hug I'm gonna be firm but I won't get shitty with her because I don't want to ruin Christmas Eve for my children and nephews. However, I just realized that I have all the power to say no. They are mine. I can say no and say how much they mean to me, smile sweetly and attend to my other guests. What's she gonna do, put them in her purse and leave? They are each about 8 inches in height and I think there are about 20-25 pieces. I also have them displayed up high so she would have to be on a ladder to get them. I'm gonna say no and be the perfect party hostess and smile sweetly. She is the one with the problem and she can get the ulcer being pissed.